The Ecology of Mean Creek

I’ve seen Mean Creek before, but we haven’t met. Skype is not a form of human contact, which was how I was unofficially introduced to them during the process of creating a publicity piece. Essentially, their manager was letting me play grown up and threw me a bone. So one evening I sat up late, hid all the embarrassing objects in my immediate vicinity, and asked them trite little questions via webcam.

I was fairly sure they hated me, or they at least hated this. They feigned patience while swigging beers and oozing the urge to be creating songs, not wasting their time talking to some random girl.  It was unnatural to say the least. I had put them in a situation where they were far removed from themselves, and it was palpable. Essentially, this was entirely awkward for everyone. That’s why I was honestly surprised when they extended the offer to allow me to attend a show in Boston.

Since I function almost entirely on curiosity, I wanted to find out how these creatures behave in their natural environment.  So on December 9th, I found myself sweet talking a Boston cabby to get me to a show that had already started. At least 20 minutes late, I bolted up a flight of stairs at the back of the House of Blues, and ran straight out to Mean Creek’s fully functioning set.

Even with my misplaced timing, everything worked out perfectly because, well, they perform perfectly. First of all, they sounded great. Seriously, this isn’t someone’s basement show, this is the House of Blues, of course they’re going to sound amazing. That’s not completely what I mean, though. I’ve listened to plenty of Mean Creek, at home, on my exhausted computer. I’ve heard their songs before, and even enjoyed them. But seeing the songs in this setting was an entirely new experience.

I’ve become adjusted to watching bands feel compelled to climb over each other on stage. There’s generally a lot of grabbing, shoving, and invasions of personal space. On the other hand, the bands I’ve seen who don’t take this tactic can come off as disconnected, like the show is somehow interrupting better plans. However, that’s not Mean Creek.

The members of Mean Creek have been friends for years. I’m aware of this. Which is why I was so struck by the idea and the visualization that they are not entangled with each other. That seems almost impossible at this point in their music. Each member was playing their own show that night. It just so happened that they naturally all arrived at the same show.

Aurore seemed to be on a personal journey (that included almost wandering off stage completely). But I fell in love while watching her push on to her toes to sing into the mic, like those 3 extra inches were just what she needed to give to make it complete. Listening to her scream is exactly what I imagine it sounds like if you shot Crysta from “Fern Gully.” (I mean that in the best way possible. It’s a hot scream.)

On the other hand, Erik toed his own line, and declared a space that existed solely for himself and his instrument. If Mikey looked up from the drums, I didn’t see it, but he didn’t seem particularly lonely there. They both possessed a solitary focus that was not to be disturbed. This left Chris as the only direct connection to the outside world. A boundary he crossed as infrequently as possible, before stepping back into his vocals.

There was a comfort in their movement on stage that I was relieved to see. They naturally exist alongside their creations. Separate individuals who are perfectly united when they all make music. As though, if you removed any member from the stage, the others wouldn’t notice. You could be down to just one member left and you’d still be watching a damn good Mean Creek show.

I don’t care what the crowd was doing, and I don’t think the band noticed much either. They were there to create music, and that was the only focus, which in itself, is the heart of any show worth watching.  There’s an ease that arrives with good music being played by those that created it from an innate space, as opposed to penning show-stoppers to sell to crowds. It’s an invitation to be welcomed into a natural environment otherwise reserved for Mean Creek alone.

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Now let’s play a game called Find Mean Creek.

http://meancreek.bandcamp.com

http://meancreek.tumblr.com

Day Twenty-One: K.I.S.S.

In seventh grade, Global Studies was taught by the intimidating Mr. L. This guy could take the piss out of any one. He is the only teacher to ever give me a detention. It was for having a messy binder. Seriously. I talked my way out of it.

I also consider Mr. L to be the first person to give me a true compliment on my writing. We had a standard homework assignment of reading a chapter from the textbook, and writing out our answers to a series of questions. As he handed back my graded paper, my eyes fearfully flew to the red pen at the bottom of the page.

“Thank you for being concise.”

Confused, I took the paper to him after class. Generally, red pen meant something bad. Was he insinuating I wasn’t putting in enough effort? I inquired as to my error.

“No,” He said, without even taking a break from cleaning the black board. “I appreciate that you state your answers and move on. It makes your writing easy to understand, and it saves me time.”

A bit baffled, but oddly flattered, I withdrew quietly from his classroom, clutching my messy Bugs Bunny binder.

To this day, I firmly believe that is a signature of my style. Get to the point. Weed out the words that don’t add anything to the purpose. Leave little room for confusion.

Bad for a novel. Good for a blog post.

Day Seventeen: I’m not drunk, I swear.

As freshmen in high school, we were all required to take a class taught by one of the physical education instructors. Here, we were taught the finer points of sexual interaction, such as how to place a condom on a banana. (No comment.) They’d covered the basics back in 6th grade, but this class seemed to say, “Okay, the jig is up. Let’s just try to keep you guys from being idiots, alright?”

When we weren’t gagging at a birth video, we were going over the evils of drugs and alcohol. I distinctly remember the instructor shuddering at the idea of being drunk. “Why would ANYONE want to do that to themselves?” She wailed. At the same time, she informed us that being drunk was no excuse for our actions. Alcohol can’t make you do anything you don’t want to do. It only makes you more likely to do and say the things you already have on your mind.

At the time, I found that a rather confusing statement. Then…how was booze bad? I’m a decent child! I never think bad thoughts! Later, I learned the horrible truth of this. Just because you really do want to call and scream at your ex at 3 AM, it’s still an awful decision. We have verbal filters for a reason.

I’ve realized Internet and social media are a close relative to alcohol. It has the uncanny ability to make really STUPID things seem like a great idea. We become heightened, strung-out versions of ourselves. Sure, all of these attributes exist within us, but, dude, keep your pants on at the party.

Take, for example, the fine citizens that make up the law firm of Steven J. Baum. These are hard working folks who decided to cut loose with a little Halloween party. They had some pretty horrifying costumes.

Prepare to gasp in terror by clicking here.

 

I look at this, and want to go, “Really, guys? Really?” Seriously! These are LAWYERS. Smart people. They have degrees and stuff. Has anyone told them about the Internet? Were they so drunk on how much fun it is to share funny pictures that not a ONE of them said, “Hey guys? I have a bad feeling about this…”

The Internet is like 3 shots of Tequila. The girls get clingy and weepy, and the boys get weirdly brash and mean. Insults are hurled, stalking takes place. Clothing seems to mysteriously go missing. Feelings get hurt, and you’re left clinging to your throbbing skull in the morning moaning, “Why?!?”

I know I’m guilty of a little Social Media delinquency. I’ve looked back the next day and wondered if that post was REALLY needed. Did I truly need to pointlessly tweet at that celebrity? I swear that one day Facebook is going to rat me out as to whose photos I view the most. (Facebook, I will hunt you down if that day comes.) When I feel like I’m getting a little sloppy, I try to dry out a bit. One glass of water for every hour online. Maybe pace myself.

The Internet, much like a margarita, is a fickle mistress. When used properly, it can be a delightful way to pass an evening with friends. However, things can quickly get sloppy. Keep an eye on your companions. Take the laptop or handheld device from them if you see signs of abuse. And always heed the warnings of high school gym teachers.

Day Sixteen: I think it’s called Power Cycling.

Sometimes I can’t look at the computer anymore. I’m sure any one who has a real job in writing (as opposed to a made-up one, like me) comes across this phenomena as well. You become fairly sure that the white-washing light of the screen is burrowing a hole into your brain, and draining out your will to have independent thought. You’ve read so many blogs and articles in a row, that you can’t remember which ideas were yours, and which were just planted there. Worse, you’ve wandered across subjects, and now you’re trying to draw connections between topics that just don’t want to be forced together. For example, a love of funny cat videos, and the potential reformation of student loan collection. It doesn’t work. Just stop it. People are going to be insulted.

Occasionally, a re-set day is needed. You’ve got to save the articles in your inbox for a time when your brain can digest them.  I try not to take this too hard. I know it will happen. Usually, just a few hours after declaring a re-set, I can go back and begin to take in information again. But until then, I have to move about my life.

My odd work schedule leaves me with Mondays and Tuesdays as my weekend. This does not bode well for my social life. You’re hard pressed to find another kindred spirit who just wants to stay up to all hours of Monday night. Also, I’m broke, which places limitations on the entertainment I can provide myself with. But it’s our job in life to work with what we’ve got. So I keep my own company during my brain re-sets.

I’m also pretty darn good at finding the free entertainment out there. You know what’s free? Puppies. As I hit up the pet store and re-stock sundries for the furry club at home, and spare myself 10 extra minutes to stare in the puppy windows. Spend 10 minutes watching a puppy and tell me your muscle spasm of a brain doesn’t start to relax.

Next up, the book store. There is a stunning, beautiful, independent bookstore about 20 minutes from where I live. I love to touch books. I love different weights and textures. I do judge a book by it’s cover. I can’t resist a pretty one. The best part? They can’t kick me out for browsing! Don’t get me wrong, whenever I do have discretionary funds, I will always support a local business. Come holiday time, I’ll be back for gifts. But right now, I just need to be near the work of authors. Also, if the book appears to be about a dog/ cat/ horse/ etc., I need to read the last few pages of said book to make sure the animal in question survives to the end.

Now that I’ve given myself a severe need of new literature, I head straight to the library. I have a library card and I bear it with pride. My local library is very small, but that’s okay. If I’m given too much room to roam, I’ll end up sitting in a corner, rocking quietly back and forth from the stress of decisions. Coming straight from the book store gives me the advantage of having a few titles in mind I would like to read for free. Usually, I can find at least one of them.

I have the slightly off kilter ritual of gathering up the books I think I might potentially like to check out, and lining them all up on a table. I then assess the moods of the books, and what kind of experience I would like to have that week. I know that if I read Kazuo Ishiguro, I’m going to be committed all week. His books make me quiet and introspective. Neil Gaiman will have me thinking with a British accent, which can get cumbersome, but I do love a quiet step into impossibility. I evaluate my week, the time I will have to dedicate to the book, and I make my selection.

Heading home, I breathe a little easier. Natural light does wonders for the brain.

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Day Fifteen: Tweets falling on cedars

The other day I briefly touched on the idea that social media is no longer just the stuff of the idle-minded. It’s a increasingly important venue for huge aspects of our lives. Put aside the idea of staying in touch with long-lost friends, or viewing pictures of a wedding you were unable to attend. Social media is now an avenue for the BIG stuff.

This weekend, my lovely little state of Connecticut was struck with an unprecedented snow storm. Half the state slipped into darkness as heavy snow and wind ripped down trees and power lines. This is the outtage map from Connecticut Light and Power as of this morning.

CL-P Outtage Map

Festively colored for Halloween

I have friends up in that black hole of the north-western state. But I know they’re okay. I know they’ve cleared their roads, and plan on making it to the nearest shelter to warm up. I’ve offered them my house, but they can’t make it down here. I also have not picked up the phone.

As the storm raged that night, my feed on Facebook was flooding. Each person instantly grabbed their cell phones and started updating. I knew who lost power and when, where the trees went down, and where the power lines had been spotted. I was lucky enough to hold on to power, and was able to watch the local news. As more and more of the state went dark, the newscasters encouraged folks to get on Facebook and Twitter to follow updates from an official source.

The day after the storm the pictures started coming in. Lovely, glistening snow over cracked and shattered trees. CL-P is trending on Twitter in my area as natives, local news outlets, and businesses keep up a tight network of information on who has power, and when we might expect it back.

What would we do without social media in emergencies? As my home state of Vermont was devasted by Tropical Storm Irene’s flooding at the end of August, I immediately turned to Facebook to check on friends, and gain an understanding of the damage. News outlets can’t give me the level of understanding that comes from the post of someone who just fled their house.

That brings up an interesting thought. Why would someone who had just fled their house even think about updating their Facebook status? Why would you waste your precious cell phone battery accessing the Internet to tweet about a downed power line? Because that’s how we survive. We’ve shifted our communities and our networks online. We’re not always next to a television, or a radio, but more and more of us are constantly linked to wireless device.

Check out this really compelling graphic  that focuses on emergency communications in social media. I find it utterly fascinating. Nothing spreads information faster than the Internet. If you can get one tweet sent, someone else can re-tweet it to thousands, who re-tweet it again, and, who knows, maybe save a few lives. I remember when the 2008 Mumbai terrorist attacks took place. My college had a sister campus in the city. During the attacks, students warned each other where there was danger. Twitter was essential for determining the safety of students. Traditional news agencies just can’t always move fast enough. 

So we have the birth of citizen journalists. There is, of course, downsides to this. Individual users see very small portions of a crisis. That one cell phone picture might not be an accurate portrayal of the events at hand. Inaccurate information can be sent out. However, I can’t help but think that the pros are much greater than the cons. Think of Wikipedia. In school, we were warned to death about using the site, as it was created by, “normal,” people who can post false information. I never fully bought that idea. If you let everyone share their information, inaccurate facts are ripped down almost immediately. Corrections are made before the problem is even realized.

The same principle applies to emergency response through social media. With thousands of average-joes on the case, we’re able aid in mapping damage, updating news sources, and checking in on our loved ones. While I still don’t think we should be replacing a call to 911 with a tweet to the local news, I don’t think it’s a far stretch to say that every person with a cell phone has now become essential to crisis management.

And you thought the Facebook was just for Justin Bieber fans…

Day Fourteen: This is a post, I swear.

Full disclosure: I’m struggling for inspiration today. After a poor night of sleep due to our lovely little Halloween Nor’Easter, I’m feeling very devoid of word-vomit. The only solution is to make like Fellini and write a blog about writing a blog.

Back in the 60’s Federico Fellini made a film called, “8 1/2.” The entire premise of the flick focused on a film maker trying to make a movie with no inspiration. It’s an excellent movie. However, I’m not going to lie. I did fall asleep during it. It was late, and sub-titles make my eyes heavy. Now, re-make the film with musical numbers, and sassy leading ladies. Call it, “Nine,” and I’ll wake right back up.

Step one in creating a blog: Setting the scene.

I’ve discovered the perfect height for my laptop is resting on the couch, while I sit on the floor in front of it. Sitting on the awesome mediation pillow from India is helpful, but not necessary. Get a can of seltzer. The bubbles make you think faster, I swear. Turn on music.

Step Two: Avoid.

Get up. Work out while listening to more music. Decide the cat needs to be located. Locate cat. Repeatedly check phone for perhaps a missed text message that will save you from needing to focus. Return to pillow.

Step Three: Ask the Internet for help.

Hit up FunnyorDie.Com for comic relief. Find this video enjoyable. Discover that even the pros seem to be feeling a little dumb-struck today, but we all really like, “Angry Birds.” Give up on the Internet providing me with anything that isn’t related to what celebrities are wearing to Halloween parties.

Step Four: Force it.

Sometimes, a deadline is a deadline, and you’ve just got to create something. The best you can hope for is to make it slightly entertaining and full of ways for others to distract themselves from their own work.

And therefore I give you:

Baby bear in a grocery store!

A video about Cleveland.

Another awesome Muppet trailer.

And finally, Ryan Gosling eating pizza. (You’re welcome.)

Step Five: Claim Victory!

You know what I just wrote a blog about? How information is shared on the Internet through boredom. I just made myself your source for useless information on a Sunday when everyone is stuck at home. Happy viral video watching! (Thank you, Fellini.)

Day Twelve: Cover your ears if you don’t like cursing.

We’re going to take a little break from the social media discussion. Because, well, f*ck it.

It’s a phrase I find myself uttering more and more these days. F*ck it. It feels good. Say it with me. F*ck it. Okay, now say it like you mean it. F*CK IT. Better. It’s really satisfying, right?

No, really. Even scientists think saying it is awesome!

This past year has been the harborer of some pretty big moments for myself and my family. It’s held more than our fair share of life-is-too-short days. Perfect little reminders that being hit by a bus isn’t all that far out of the realm of possibilities. Which leads to the very essence of f*ck it.

(Okay, for the remainder of this entry, I’m going to use F’IT as a substitute. Those little *s are annoying, and I’m lazy.)

Saying F’IT always leads to something, whether it’s awesome, or awful and teaches a scarring lesson. F’IT is the breaker and the builder.

F’IT can be big or small, but it’s always a re-setting of the bones. I had a F’IT moment sitting in my digital marketing class during my senior year at school. Finals were about two months away. It was snowing. I looked out the window at Burlington, VT and wondered where my place was in that town. Then I said F’IT. As I walked out of class, I called my friend who lived and worked in New York City and left her a voice mail asking if I could sleep on her couch. Two months and one week later, I moved to New York.

Both a traumatizing and thrilling decision. It slammed the book shut on one chapter of my life, and altered many of my relationships forever. At the same time, I found my core. I was adopted by a few NYC natives, who taught me that socks are not a fashion accessory, and that I can’t wander into traffic. They also taught me how to laugh until you’re breathless in a dive bar, convince a cab to drive to Queens at 3 AM, and not to let anyone push me out of the way on the subway. NYC taught me the indescribable feeling of perfectly navigating a crowd of thousands, because you know exactly where you’re going. F’IT is what gave me that opportunity.

F’IT taught me how to kickbox and travel alone. It allowed me to fall from standing into a yoga back bend, teaching me that the world is pretty cool upside down. F’IT took me to the concert of a band I had never heard before, and handed my soul over to The Decemberists for about two hours. F’IT is the only way I’ve ever made my own life interesting.

And I need to say it more. (To myself, obviously, there might be sensitive ears in the area.) Life is much too short not to say f*ck it.

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